Nothing much has changed since I posted how interesting times seem to be passing us by. Life is quiet and no news is good news is our mantra.
My sister-landlord checked in via email from the south of the border last week, sharing photos of her gorgeous new kitty, and asked “how are things with you?” I replied “all is well with us… lots of stuff happening with people we know but not with us… it’s weird… feels like being in the eye of a cyclone.”
Since the April post, more relationship break ups and other unfortunate situations have come to our notice.
Was it the influence of the Full Moon eclipse I wonder…. “Eclipses shine the bright light of truth to the part of your life that is touched by the eclipse. Most of the time, eclipses act as brilliant illuminators, revealing a condition that you were unaware existed. They can also act as catalysts to a major life decision. Also under an eclipse, you may finally understand the true character of a person near you.”
Of an evening, the G.O. and I sit with glasses of wine, exchange no news is good news, and observe it truly is extraordinary but unsettling to be steady ourselves while so many people around us going through such tough times.
Even good happens when things go awry… Read the rest of this entry »
Is it just us? We’ve come to accept and appreciate our somewhat quiet life, at least for the moment…
“May you live in interesting times” is often referred to as the Chinese curse. By its usual definition “interesting” is not a term I would often use to describe my life.
Interesting adj. engaging or exciting and holding the attention or curiosity
Dull. Yes, that’s more like it.
But, thankfully dull. Occasionally the G.O. and I will call each other during the work day. Mostly the chat goes like this “Any news?” “Nup” “You?” “Nup” “No news is good news” “Yep”… We rarely have any life changing, earth shattering News of our own. That’s ok by us.
But, there were “interesting times” happening within our wider circle of family, friends and acquaintances during the few weeks the G.O. and I were going about the business of getting our ducks lined up.
One [reportedly] experienced a dramatic and untidy end of a relationship because their other-half may have indulged in a bit of slap and tickle, which ended up being a bit of slap, tickle and tinkle as speedily alerted to the dastardly deed one found some handy bricks and applied them forcefully & generously to the windows.*
One, similar age to me suffered a stroke, has recovered and is now slowly on the mend.
One announced via a group email legal separation from their longstanding spouse.
One confided fears over family member’s change in behaviour evidenced by the acquisition of a Harley Davidson and numerous tattoos.
One is grieving a spouse after a lost battle with illness.
One is distressed by lending a family member a substantial wad of cash only to have it applied contrary to the intended purpose.
One recently explained lack of communication after moving interstate with news of relationship and subsequent nervous breakdowns, and although moved back resultant ongoing health issues necessitate a disability pension.
One subject to ongoing mediation due to as yet unfounded allegations of workplace bullying now has stress related illness and workers compensation claim.
On the bright side…
One is pregnant.
One gave birth to a son after 2 daughters.
One after going through IVF and dealing with serious health issues gave birth to premature but healthy twin daughters.
Serving to remind us “There but for the grace of God…” the timing directed our considerations also to “Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans” when assessing the use by date on engagement with our city workaday life. It’s practical, it’s useful but it’s not challenging or ultimately the lifestyle we desire, and life comes with no guarantees.
Having involuntarily had a few interesting times ourselves in past lives enroute to our current and harmonious relationship we know we’re not immune. And, as we’ve experienced vicariously and a little unnervingly these past few weeks, life takes unexpected twists and turns.
It’s best not to put off your dreams for too long.
The timing of putting together this post collided with the awful news of the Boston Marathon bombing and the Waco, Texas explosion… the worst of times… my heart goes out to everyone touched by these events.
*Later information reveals the source of this info got it slightly wrong, and it is the “interesting” version of what really happened.
A recent article on SMH introduced me to Dunbar’s Number “the maximum number of friends a human can have at any one time” apparently 150 on average, of which 5 to 7 are intimate relationships increasing in layers of lessening intimacy up to a maximum of 1500 people including all and sundry who we don’t know personally but recognise e.g. fellow commuters, celebrities…
In 2012 I met a whole new world of people via blogging. They have become in effect my virtual neighbours, booting out a whole lot of actual people who took up places in that 1500 without adding much value.
Like everyone I have plans and dreams but they were neglected and didn’t have much flesh on them. They needed a good feed. Gradually I picked my way through WordPress Community Garden, tasting then feasting upon the wonderful produce on offer. Now my plans and dreams are fat and bursting with detail and ideas.
Richard of The Future Is Papier Mâché generously handed out nominations for a swag of awards at the end of 2012, including nominating elladeewords for Very Inspiring Blogger, Sisterhood of the World Bloggers, Gargie Award and Blog of the Year 2012, to which I’m only now happily if belatedly responding, due to a holiday hiatus and back to the real world distractions.
Of those awards Gargie and Blog of the Year 2012 are new to elladeewords. I’m honoured to accept, and pass on my nominations for both awards below with pithy details of how these bloggers over the course of 2012 fed my plans and dreams, and empowered my journey by their posts, and responses to mine. It wouldn’t surprise if me all of them have been previously nominated for Blog of the Year 2012… they’re that good!
Buried Words and Bushwa’s Metan inspires me by radiating love of life and more often than not giving me a laugh.
Clouds moving in’s Roughseas inspires me to be an informed thinker and consumer of life. The Roughseas blog broadens my world by generously sharing eclectic thoughts & knowledge, insights into Gib & Spanish life, and she also has Pippadog, Land Rovers & Pics blogs.
dadirridreaming’s Christine inspires to me strive for the life I want.
Dianne Gray inspires me with her brilliant writing and attitude to life including giving up her day job and old life to move to North Queensland.
East of Málaga’s Marianne inspires me by her gift of sharing the life and colour of Spain.
from the Bartolini kitchens’ ChgoJohn inspires me with food, glorious food prepared with big helpings of generosity and joy.
Kourtney Heintz’s Journal inspires me by sharing her journey of writing and publishing, book reviews, and kills me with Grandma H. stories.
Leanne Cole Photography inspires me with her artistry and persistence in pursuing her ambitions.
Lori’s Lane inspires me with her wisdom.
My Bright Life inspires me by love of the coast, which I share, and insights into life in South Africa.
Paralaxvu inspires me with her compassion, honesty and wicked sense of humour.
Pete Denton inspires me with his dedication to writing, goals and book reviews.
Philosopher Mouse of the Hedge inspires me with her clever interpretation of social and community issues & interests, missives from RC Cat and canine perspectives of Molly & The German.
Postcard Cafe‘s Nigel inspires me with his passion for Sheffield street art.
Robyn Coyle inspires me with her writing skills and comedic flair, and shares tools that assist me to be more comfortable and confident in my writing space.
RumpyDog’s household inspires me by their dedication to animal welfare and rights, and beguiles me with unbearable cuteness.
The Future Is Papier Mâché’s Richard inspires with his enthusiasm for photography, books and music, and appreciation of urban landscapes and its inhabitants.
The Kitchens Garden’s Celi inspires me with her sustainable living & food commitment and her energy, and delights me with the Farmy cast.
The Wanderlust Gene inspires me with her passion for life in Sri Lanka, love of the Misses Kotte, and remarkable archive of images.
Vics Pics and More inspires me with her walks and travels with dogs Jasper & Sal.
Walking with a Smacked Pentax inspires me by taking me to into stunning timeless landscapes, and dark deep places.
Even if it takes me a while to get to them I like to find time to respond to award nominations because I value the nomination and the effort that has gone in to passing it on. Roughseas recently shared a link which makes a good technical point about awards and possible flow on benefits if you find such things useful.
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“Pull up a chair. Take a taste. Come join us. Life is so endlessly delicious.” Ruth Reichl
Gargie Award Rules:
1. Display the award badge as prominently on your site as you are inclined.
2. Publish a post to inform the world of your great achievement… in your own good time.
3. Nominate fellow bloggers… who you have great bloggy affection for.
4. Indicate to your nominees that they have received the award… by whatever means is most convenient.
Blog of the Year 2012 Rules:
1. Select another blog or other blogs who deserve the ‘Blog of the Year 2012’ Award;
2. Write a blog post and tell us about the blog(s) you have chosen – there’s no minimum or maximum number of blogs required – and ‘present’ them with their award;
3. Include a link back to this post ‘Blog of the Year 2012’ Award at the Thought Palette and provide these ‘rules’ in your post; (please don’t alter the rules or the badges!) link lost in transition
4. Let the blog(s) you have chosen know that you have given them this award and share the ‘rules’ with them;
5. You can now also join our Facebook group – click ‘like’ on this page ‘Blog of the Year 2012’ Award Facebook group and then you can share your blog with an even wider audience; link lost in transition
6. As a winner of the award – please add a link back to the blog that presented you with the award – and then proudly display the award on your blog and sidebar … and start collecting stars. not for me but if you wish…
(italics indicate elladee variations)